Keys to Happiness #3 – Tips from The Anxiety Control Center

Post 3: Anxiety Control Center’s answer to finding happiness.

Don’t search for happiness
focus on the positives and happiness will come.

Today we’ll be looking the the 3rd post in the key’s to happiness series.  It you put these tips to use  you too can gain happiness, no matter what is going on in your life.  Even if you are still suffering from anxiety, or insomnia, or depression these tips can work for you.

Key 1: Is to know that changing our responses to stressors takes some effort.

Key 2: Is to take one tiny step at a time, that is all it takes.

Key 3: Give yourself credit for what you do.

Key 4:. In any situation there is something “positive” you can look at.
Sometimes when we are in a depressed state it is difficult to find things to feel positive about.  So when you are “down in the dumps” begin to search for the smallest things you can find that have some merit. Even in a terrible situation there are small things to wonder about.

For example one client who was depressed and anxious was brooding about the lunch she was eating.  She was blaming herself for not managing her time better so she would have had time to get the food she really wanted.  When a person is depressed the filter they see life through is “dirty and grey.”  This makes everything they look at seem “negative and lousy.”

In this case the client simply started with a truth: the food she had was healthy.  When she stopped berating herself she was able to pay attention to the taste of the food, instead of wishing for something else. When we stay in the present moment we can begin to find joy for even the smallest things.   Enjoy what you have instead of wishing for what you don’t have.  The color of the sky, a kindness someone did for you.  The laugh of a child. Even the wonderful taste of the coffee or tea you’ve had recently.

Finding things to be positive about.  For another client who felt she stuck in life just recognizing that she made a few phone calls and sent a few emails out that morning was something she could begin to give herself credit for.

When we give ourselves credit for small things and find things that are positive, it stimulates us to take the next small step towards our goals.

Continuing tomorrow with Key 5.

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